Coaching for Christian Couples

Life is pretty good. You’ve got family, friends, work you (mostly) enjoy, even a hobby or two. When someone asks how you’re doing, you say, “can’t complain.” But, are you thriving?

Your marriage is mostly good, but there are still some things that get under your skin. You may not fight a lot, but there’s stuff that’s unresolved and avoided. You know you and your spouse are reading the same book, but sometimes you don’t know what chapter they’re on.

 It would be great if you could get on the same page without grinding the gears. That’s where coaching can help!

Coaching helps you take the fundamentals you already have and expand them to meet your vision for marriage. Because, ultimately, you want a marriage your kids and community look up to. You want a partnership you’re proud of.

Coaching - a Marriage Makeover

We all love those home makeover shows, right? I have binge-watched my share of Fixer Upper and Love It or List It. Marriage can be like that. Sometimes you need a full renovation, demo and all (that’s couples therapy). Sometimes you just need some fresh paint, furniture, and new artwork (okay, and maybe knock out a wall or two). That’s couples coaching.

While therapy is often a longer commitment with several areas to work on, coaching is more like a project with one focus.

  • You want to stop the cycle of confusion and commit to a system for communication - coaching!

  • You want to constructively talk about problems & feel more connected than when you started - coaching!

  • You want to cut through all the loud, contradictory advice and find rest in your connection with each other - coaching!

Christ, the Solid Rock

There are many seasons in life and marriage. We like to highlight and celebrate the good ones, but we also need an anchor for the hard ones. Christ has been your anchor. Without faith, you know you couldn’t have made it through everything life has thrown at you. Your faith in His faithfulness is the key to your life.

As a fellow follower of Jesus, I coach from a biblical mindset. I believe His Word has established principles for an abundant life and I coach from that perspective. I’m not your pastor or spiritual director, but I have followed Jesus since childhood. Our shared faith and my skills as a therapist make me a great coach for believers who want to ensure that the guidance they’re following is rooted in Christ.

What does it really mean to have a Christian marriage? I think many pastors and authors have made it sound like it’s supposed to be simple: just follow these guidelines and you’ll have a wonderful, biblical marriage. But I don’t think Scripture is actually as clear as some people tell us it is. I think we’re supposed to live dependent on the indwelling Spirit of God, rather than a list of prescribed behaviors created by men (recall what Jesus said about the Pharisees: “they bind heavy burdens…but all their works are to be seen by men.”). The Word of God illuminated by the Spirit of God - that is the Christian life.

And there are many specific questions we have that Jesus simply didn’t answer. Things like, “how much time should our kids spend on video games?”, “how should we budget our money?”, or “which are we supposed to do - ‘honor our father & mother’ or ‘leave & cleave’?” These the the challenging marital discussions that we sometimes need skills and support to have effectively. Coaching can help.

Coaching Packages

Basic — $1000

3 months of coaching that includes:

  • 3 one-hour coaching sessions

  • Voxer text and voice message support

  • fillable or printable workbook

Deep Dive — $2000

3 months of coaching that includes:

  • 6 one-hour coaching sessions

  • Voxer text and voice message support

  • fillable or printable workbook

  • access to video library for 6 months

 Frequently Asked Questions

How is coaching different from therapy?

Coaching and therapy have a lot of overlap; that’s the main reason I decided to become a coach. I wanted to make the skills I knew as a therapist more accessible to a broader scope of people. The main difference is that therapy is healthcare. Mental health treatment is meant for individuals and couples who are experiencing difficulty because of a mental health condition. Coaching is for anyone who wants to improve their life - whether they’re wrestling with a mental health condition or not. Many people who would benefit from coaching also go to therapy. They usually have a short term mental health need, like adjusting to changing life circumstances or sorting out how to set healthy boundaries. If I work with you as a coach, I will not be providing mental health treatment. I will recommend that you connect with a therapist in your area who can support you with mental health issues.

How is coaching different from meeting with our pastor?

Pastors are awesome! I have great respect for someone who is shepherding a group of people seeking to follow Jesus. Pastors have a lot on their plate and oftentimes can’t dedicate the time or energy needed by everyone in their congregation (that’s just too much for one person!). And pastors aren’t jacks-of-all-trades; they don’t have all the answers or skills for life’s multitude of problems. Coaching provided tools for improving your marriage, Coaching with me gives you those skills from a Christian perspective.

I don’t want to be preached at; how do you include faith in coaching?

I include faith to the degree that you are comfortable and welcoming of it. Your faith journey is between you and God. I will ask you questions about how your faith influences your beliefs about life and marriage, how you make decisions, how you prioritize your commitments, etc. I’ll ask how you’ve come to the conclusions you have and challenge your beliefs at times - not because I disagree, but because we grow when we are challenged. You wouldn’t build muscle if you only ever lifted 5lb weights - we need resistance to get strong!

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You’re ready for the marriage of your dreams - let’s build it together!